2/8/2020. CBB
THIS WOULD BE REAL SOCIAL JUSTICE PEOPLE….IF PEOPLE WHO HAVE SHAMED, MOLESTED, AND ASSAULTED INNOCENT CHILDREN WITH THEIR PORNOGRAPHIC CONDUCT AND SEXUAL MOLESTATION OR ASSAULT HAD TO FACE A PANEL OF ADULTS AND THE VICTIMIZED CHILD AND HEAR WHAT THEIR CONDUCT IS DOING TO THE CHILD AND TO SOCIETY!! IF SHERIFFS WON’T ARREST THEM AND DISTRICT ATTORNEYS WON’T PROSECUTE THEM, SHAME THE HELL OUT, OF THEM AND MARK THEM WITH A SCARLET LETTER UNTIL THEY STOP THIS ATROCITY AGAINST CHILDREN! I CAN NAME A FEW NAMES AND START RECRUITING FOR THE CIVILIAN SOCIAL JUSTICE PANELS, PEOPLE!
I saw on LinkedIn that Lori Allen at Children’s Advocacy Center is advertising a position in Jackson Co for an advocate for youthful victims of sexual abuse. I sent her this reply based on personal knowledge of at least one perpetrator that’s gotten away with 2 assaults there. There’s got to be a way to drag the perps in front of witnesses/victims to allow the child to confront them and tell them what they’ve done to their innocence!!!!!!!!!!!! ##**%@
Greatly needed! So sad for the Jackson Co victims who have been ignored by law enforcement, state attorney, and state children’s services there. Shame. I’m still pondering a letter to the Governor and Attorney General…. watching and waiting. In my opinion the worst thing that ever happened was funding for county “drug task forces” that pay dealers and users to inform as “confidential informants”, giving them a pass on charges so that they gained “protected status” with law enforcement and preferential treatment that have put vulnerable children in their lives in the hands of predators. Children’s services say they “can’t” interfere and law enforcement won’t. In the mean time children are being traumatized, molested, and abused without any recourse against the perpetrators. God is going to deal with some people on these things, but if I get a chance, I will, too. There are some non-courtroom ways to do it that would provide justice and protection for the child and humiliation and a cost for the perpetrator for lesser offenses through trauma conflict mediation. This would be a great arena for CAC.
If I were the parent of a victimized child for whom NO JUSTICE was secured, I would find a way to get the perp in front of an audience of his peers- family, friends, neighbors- and expose his behavior until he CAME OUT OF DENIAL, APOLOGIZED and swore never to come near her or any other child again. Just sayin……. call it an INTERVENTION !!!!! For some of them, as least, I think we could organize some sex addicts accountability groups real quick and get them rehabilitating. Too many men- uncles, cousins, older brothers, next door neighbors, mama’s boyfriend’s, stepfathers, and even daddies have gotten away with traumatizing and scarring the sexuality and souls of little girls and WOMEN IN THEIR LIVES HAVE PROTECTED THE MEN AND BOYS AND LET THEM. SHAME ON US!!!!
Stop it. Stop it now. If your daughter comes to you for help, confront the perp. Get him some help. Use a trauma conflict resolution mediator. If you are dependent on the bastard and love him, don’t throw away your daughter, instead. HELP HER! HELP HIM! We have to stop this.
I’m for organizing a hunger strike sit in at the Governor’s office or State Atty General office to start some public conversation about alternative justice models to stop this kind of behavior without involving the lengthy and burdensome court system… using a trauma conflict mediation process.
This is a soul-damaging scourge of society that has been hidden behind impotent wringing hands for too many millennia and has wounded too many children whose woundedness was perpetrated into generation after generation. STOP IT continuing
Conversations continuing….
Can I just say that the majority of women in substance abuse that I know have been sexually molested to some degree by an adult they should have been able to trust by the time they were 12. Some were actually groomed by their abuser. Some were even trafficked by him. And too often a woman in her life knew it was happening and turned a blind eye or excused the behavior either because she, too, was abused or she had no options (she thought) except to stay with the abuser. Do you know how may girls are runaways because of this? How many come to view their sexuality as merely a commodity to use to get what they need or want? How many are self-loathing, knowing that they are worth more than whatever “price” their bodies will bring?
The legal system has failed so many victims and families in this arena. Time to go around it and do it through family counseling and confrontation through recovery services. It’s a mental health and behavioral problem. It’s a family system problem. It’s a social problem.
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It’s right down horrible. I can relate i was raped at 13 and molested by a cousin and neighbor kid. It tried to take its toll on me and in my life but for the Grace of God and all the many wonderful people he put in my life’s path to help me get back on track, sharing the truth of Gods word, loving and correcting me, along the way giving a shoulder to cry on, a hug when feeling abandoned. These are the things that mattered the most to me. Cathy your one of those hand-picked specially selected people God chose to help me in my life. Thanks a million!!!!
Me :
I am FIERCE ON THIS MATTER. I was never molested as a child, though I knew some who were. If I had been I knew I had family that would have taken action WITHOUT FAIL.
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Just wanted to comment to become part of the conversation. I have read some research that says that there has been zero rehabilitation for males who sexually abuse children. (I’m sorry I can’t reference the sources). Do you know of any successful rehab efforts in that area? To give you an overview of where I’m coming from: I was abused by four men by the time I was twelve years old. My oldest son was molested from infancy until he was six years old by a family member. Years ago, I used to work with and raise money for the local DHS to help with programs to deal with these situations, but I got burned out from seeing no results. I used to be a nurse and in the distant past have done lots of research in this diabolocal sewer of a problem, as well as doing some hands-on cooperation in trying to help girls and boys heal. Do you really think it helps to shame the perpetrators? I’ve never seen it done on a community level, but I have seen judges shame perpetrators in open court. It never worked, but perhaps that is because there is no follow up?
Me:
If young boys who abuse are stopped young and the girls they abuse had to sit in front of each other to get to the heart of the problem, we’d find that many of the boys themselves are likely being abused in one way or another and parents would have chance to start protecting BOTH. And the boyfriends and the mothers who abandon a daughter for the sake of a boyfriend who masturbates in front of her daughter or tries to tongue kiss a 12 year old need to be shamed. Shame that brings conviction that causes one to repent and change behavior is helpful. The standard required for legal action and the additional trauma to families of such lengthy processes makes them next to impossible and the perps know it. So they get away with their antics. When mothers take as dim a view of pornography and molestation of their children as they did of drunk driving in the 70s and as many finally have begun to take with smoking, we’ll make some progress. Society can bring pressure to bear on behavior that will change it. This has to be driven by women and mothers. The men won’t touch it with a 10 foot pole. When they can’t be rehabilitated they are socially isolated…. required to live and work at a distance from certain places where children are. That’s fine. They need to be kept under watchful eyes. No better scarlet letter than to wear the designation of “sexual predator.” for a history of such behavior against a child. It’ll make some think twice about that kind of life of ostracization by general society. They can still work. They can still function in adult social settings, They just can’t be around children.
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I am in a situation right now where I go daily into the home of a family where two siblings, (4 and 7), are togther a big part of the day. The 7 year-old boy keeps wanting to build a tent and take the 4 year old girl into it, in the dark. The only adult family member who puts the brakes on with this behavior in a firm but loving way, is an uncle. The other adults seem puzzled and unaware that the boy is objectifying the little girl by sexually “experimenting” with her. They don’t pay attention when she doesn’t want to spend the night because the brother is being “mean” to her. Educating people in how to deal with this kind of situation seems to be absolutely vital.
Reply: Amen my son was molested by a male a neighbor kid watching him while i was gone didnt find out till yrs later after the damage was done the molester threatend to kil me if he ever told its really difficult for the biys more than girls im sorry but after trying to get help for him an nothing worked well it was what it was and now it is what it is. I firmly believe when molestation happens it opens a door to the demonic and lust a perversion comes in. Ive only known of 3 people in my whole lufe ascof now that broke this bondage and got set free they over came and thus the spirit if homosexuality.
Me: This isn’t about homosexualtiy, per se, although, like you, I know some who will readily acknowledge that their sexual orientation was damaged by sexual abuse by someone in their childhood. However, once it was entrenched, it has become who they are and they feel powerless to change it. I have empathy and compassion for these individuals in my life And I realize there are many with homosexual orientation who do not agree with these individuals’ assessment of the causative nature of their sexual orientation. That’s not my call here. it’s for the protection of children against child molestation and exploitation, period, by anyone….whatever one’s sexual orientation. It’s a violation of their innocence and their right to healthy human development of their potential without traumatic interference by a predator!
It starts with a demonic influence in my opinion and it only gets worse if not checked quickly and as firmly as possible….. allowing the individual to see what the consequences will be for such continued behavior.
If we put 5000 mothers/ women sitting in at the Governor’s office and State Atty’s office who have been victims themselves or had children who were victims and demanded some alternative justice routes, someone would take notice and we could have some community conversations about stopping the abusers the FIRST TIME whether they are 6, 16, or 60.
Reply: Cathy, Do you think a face-to-face as described would truly make an impact on the predator? I have honest questions. How do you force ‘an alleged’ predator to attend? And what about family that protects them?
I will join you at that sit in!
Me: If it’s a choice to face it thru trauma conflict mediation or face it thru arrest and investigating action some will find the former more palatable. Of course there are some charges for which that would absolute not be a choice.
If the legal impact for lesser physical offenses were put into a different realm, there might be more willingness to make one face it and accept it instead of providing cover.
I’m watching some cases. If they absolutely result in no justice served I’m calling foul and looking into starting a movement
Maybe I’ll start studying the history of the MADD movement now …. Start thinking about a name….Women Against Sexual Predation …. WASP , Women Ending Exploitation Predation WEEP …