Character will always be revealed when money is involved.
I’ve heard some sad and, at times, ridiculous stories about relationships ruined over financial expectations not being met… in families, among friends, within churches, neighbors, etc.
But I, like any other person who desires to be a good steward of resources, both my own and those of Titus 2’s ministry, must keep a scrupulous check on my own relationship to resources and how my emotions and historical experiences get in the way. All good things come from God’s good will and provision. At the same time, while my desire is to honor and obey God, bless others, and be accountable with stewardship, as well as responsible to donors and meet needs in accordance with my calling and mission, not everyone with whom one engages has the same desire or sense of obligation to honor commitments and do what is right in the eyes of God and others, especially when it comes to money. Such engagements have sadly shown the truth of “love of money being the root of all evil.” But the desperately perceived need for money and the undisciplined use of resources can lead people to attest to being “non-materialistic,” when, in fact, they may simply be irresponsible, habitually reliant on using others, or just plan deceitful. For me, discernment and continually checking my motives and emotions and listening to God’s heart and instruction are necessary in managing financial activities in all areas of life.
The Lord provides wisdom and discernment if we ask to be protected from the unscrupulous. We must trust Him fully first, then He will guide us in who is trustworthy, with what, and to what extent…. That’s been my experience. I had a pastoral counselor tell me after some particularly treacherous waters that I had the most keenly developed B.S meter he’d ever seen! LOL! I guess if you get used enough you learn to trust God alone. The boundary between trust and cynicism is a very thin line that can only be judged by God. CBB 1/5/26
A friend observed:
”So true. Those of us who are givers learn early in life givers sleep better and are happier but we have to watch out for the takers. I’m to be a good steward of God‘s blessings and need to help others. Unfortunately, many people try to take advantage of my good heart. If it were not for laws and contracts, they would continue to steal and lie with no repercussions.”
Another said, “Ain’t that the truth. One thing comes to mind…
“ all progress begins by telling the truth”
Ha ha that builds character in a good way.”
My reply to Mark Nance, “ I remember framing that little picture, having learned it myself and realizing that it is true wisdom and first principle of flourishing in life. I was happy when you affirmed it and chose it when I began downsizing Titus 2’s residence. If you still have it send me a picture!!” (Thanks for the photo!)
Mark’s comment: “Well said, Cathy, Wise words and much needed truth. Stewardship, discernment, and accountability really do reveal the heart. Thank you for speaking on this with clarity and grace.”