Dr Henry Cloud….
“There’s this idea that time heals all wounds, and it’s a very popular one. At the same time, that kind of thinking can be a big source of pain for a lot of people. Time passing by itself doesn’t do much for us at all. It’s all of the things that we do that changes us, for better and worse, as we accumulate experiences. For those of us that accept the passage of time but resist making any changes, we shouldn’t expect to see much difference.
If someone breaks your heart, or hurts you emotionally, and you don’t do anything to address the trauma that person has created within you, sure, over time, you might not think about it as much. But it will never be too far from the surface. Those emotional wounds will be ready to rip right open again at the slightest suggestion of any kind of similar trouble.
We are not shaped by a string of events that simply happen to us. We are shaped by the ways we act, react, adapt, change and grow as a result of those events. But many times, we struggle to get to the root of those painful events because they hurt too much.”
Hmmmmm…..
……. or simply avoid getting to the root, live in denial, and believe if we give “it” enough time “it” will change, because for us to do so would take too much effort…… (CBB. 6/10/2019)