I was talking to a friend about some things she had shared with me and others about a family situation. I observed that there seemed to be a number of family “secrets” and adults trying to protect one another. All of this appears to be granting power and control to the person who knows the most secrets who also is controlling others by a show of emotional instability around whom everyone seems to be tippy toeing on eggshells. This family dynamic among the adults is having an adverse affect on a child who is not able to accurately interpret what’s going on and is harboring her own secret fears as a result. This is how generational dysfunction or “curses” are perpetuated. The thought I had was that the secrets need to be bathed in the light of truth and the controller at the center of them will then have to deal with her own issues instead of holding everyone else hostage to her unresolved issues. Life is short. Getting trapped in other peoples drama and games is life-draining.
2Corinthians 4:2 “Rather, we have renounced secret and shameful ways; we do not use deception, nor do we distort the word of God. On the contrary, by setting forth the truth plainly we commend ourselves to everyone’s conscience in the sight of God.”
A friend observed:
” I heard someone say that for healing to take place we must go through 4 steps:
Conceal, reveal, deal and heal”
Funny how often the same games are played out in so many families.